To set their intention for ongoing recovery, clients at Monte Nido write an “Eaters Agreement” for themselves and read it at their graduation ceremony. One client’s agreement is shared here »
I hereby agree, from this day forward, to live fully and completely, outside the box of anorexia nervosa. I will no longer hide my fears of life behind fears of food. I will no longer resort to literally shrinking away from the world when disappointments bombard me or choices overwhelm me.
I will no longer reduce my existence to controlling my body. I am more than my body—I am a beautiful spirit, deserving broadened horizons and freedom from self-hate and restraint. My body is wise and forgiving; unconditionally loyal to the soul it harbors. As such, I will feed it unconditionally—in times of joy, pain, chaos, and doubt. For I can only address my hungers for life when I address my most basic hunger.
I have a need for emotional nourishment—love, creativity, voice, peace—whose fulfillment is based on satisfying my need for physical nourishment. I have passions and dreams that shall no longer be overshadowed by internal civil war, excitement and energy that shall no longer be drained in the name of self-destruction.
I am liberated, free to embrace life with all its beauty and all its fear, blessed with a new foundation of confidence in my ability to take care of myself, be compassionate with my needs, and acknowledge the desires of my whole self…body and soul.
Equally important is our belief that in healing eating and exercise disorders, we must engender meaning and purpose in our clients’ lives by providing non-denominational spirituality and what we call “Tending the Soul.”
In this aspect of our program, we work with eating disorder symptoms as the voice of a disconnected soul, and we listen carefully and learn from them. Once our clients are reconnected to the spiritual, sacred, and soulful aspects of life; the need for the symptoms diminishes, and they can begin to leave their eating disorder behind.